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  Did I challenge my JW husband too much?

  by wordlywife in

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  in case all of you don't know, i'm married to a wonderful jw man, for a few years now.

  he was reinstated ater we were married.

  anyway, i have children from a previous marriage and at times disagree with my husband on discipline, how things are explained, etc.

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  Coming from a step family myself, I can't stress how important it is to your children that the discipline comes from you - NOT the step dad. He can be in on things, but you are their natural parent, and I think they would accept things better coming from you and not him, resentment will creep in if he does all the discipline. This might seem to go against the whole "head of the household" theory but I can't stress how important this is.

  Another thing, instead of saying this comes from the "society", "org", "elders" or "KH" maybe suggest to your husband to show the children from the bible and the bible only, no JW publications. You and your husband can sit down together, before hand whenever possible and discuss your course of action. My father did this, sent us to our rooms, prayed about the situation, and showed us from the bible whenever possible why we did what was wrong. (He came from a very abusive father, and never, ever disciplined us when he was angry - he took some time to cool down first by sending us to our rooms.)

  He knew your views when he married you, he has to respect your views as well, and recognize the fact that they are YOUR children. It is a two way street. When your child together comes around, I think you will have to lay down some ground rules right away.

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  Welcome to the JWD forum jd123

  by Yizuman in

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  it is my pleasure to welcome jd123 (aka jessica, not our beloved jesika) to this forum as i had sent her an invitation to visit this forum.

  i am so delighted to have her with us.

  please give her a warm welcome!!

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  Welcome

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  Female elders

  by glitter in

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  when did you first realise the society wouldn't allow women to be an ms or an elder?

  i remember being seven or eight and playing dolls with an elder's daughter in her bedroom.

  my doll was meeting up with her doll at the convention after not seeing each other for a long time.

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  When I first went to a church and saw how involved women were in leading worship, praying, etc, it was a shock! I'd never experienced that before! It's wonderful to see, women can bring different things to worship. How can you have a balanced service when it's just men?

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  What are your food cravings??

  by missy04 in

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  what foods do you crave all the time??

  whats your favorite treats??.

  mine are:.

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  Bumble Bee

  When I have a craving - it's usually for Baskin Robbins Peanut Butter and Chocolate Ice Cream!!! YUM

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  THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN CHURCH AND KINGDOM HALLS???????

  by vitty in

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  as i have never been to a church service ( except a wedding which i thought much nicer than our cold and impersonel talks) i wonder if they are as boring and repetitious as our meetings?.

  i used to think it was me, that i wasnt spiritual or appreciative enough.

  i was so bored.. we would have a talk in the service meeting about how some complain about too many meetings or going over the same stuff, and then promptly say it was our fault!.

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  Prophecor

  That has been my experience too. You sometimes can't help but become emotionally involved. There has been times that I so wanted to cry, but you don't show that kind of emotion at a KH, so it's still alittle hard for me to do. I have only been to one church so far, and man, just stepping through those doors was one of the scariest things I've ever done in my life - I kid you not!! I didn't know what to expect, would an angel of God be there to strike me down for entering BTG?? lol

  The services I've been to they start with music, live band, sometimes the choir, prayers, sermon, break to meet and great others there, more music, prayers. Sometimes there is coffee and dessert afterwards, they have numerous childrens ministries from young to late teens, sports etc. There are individual bible study groups usually on Tuesdays, in someones home, sometimes early on Sunday mornings. There is much more opportunity to get involved with fellow church members and the community than at a KH.

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  JW girls and me

  by Dustin in

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  i think i still might have a complex.

  so i'm gonna tell my story so you can all laugh at me.

  dustin

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  We always had bethel boys coming and going in my cong. Many were interested, but I was not baptized, so things didn't go too far, plus I didn't want to get married so young, so I was more of a friend and they never had to worry around me that I'd push for something more. It used to bug the other sisters that they would talk with me after meetings, work with me in service etc, and stay away from them! It was funny watching the girls in the cong when ever any fresh meat came into the hall. They were all so anxious to get married right away! (I was in no rush to get married so young, got married at 22, now I think I was too young even then). They would pounce on any new bros, and several friendships were lost over a sis stealing a bro away from her. I know of 4 marriages that are broken up, and a few that really should divorce, they make each others lives miserable.

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  American Idol - did I see a NWT?

  by No Apologies in

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  so i am watching american idol(yes i have no life) and one of the winners came out screaming and holding what looked like a nw translation - black cover.

  can anybody with a tivo confirm?

  it was like just before the horrible guy in the purple shirt came on.

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  but some of the contestants made the statement that their 'friends' said that they sounded great!

  Oh Man, Those ones were the absolute worst singers!! Those so called "friends" have a lot of splaining to do Lucy!

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  Dropping attendance and disolving congregations

  by RunningMan in

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  well, i came across a couple of interesting pieces of news yesterday, that i thought you would all find encouraging.

  while i was standing in line at macdonald?s yesterday morning, i ran into a couple of jws from the other side of town.

  they were up in my area because (not surprisingly) they were laying tiles at a local bar and the work had to be done on sunday morning.

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  About 3 years ago, one cong here was dissolved and amalgamated with two other congs. Our cong was one of them. Last year our cong was short on elders and two elders were brought over from another cong (one was an elderly man, not in good health, and now he has all these responsibilities). They still needed brothers, even after getting about 45 new publishers just a short time before. The territiory boundaries were changed so they could be in the territory.

  I was upset when I heard this because when my parents moved here, my dad was really ill, and my mom needed help and encouragement. She really wanted to come to our hall and asked me to ask the elders if it would be ok. In this way we could be company for her at the hall, help with my dad if she needed it at the meetings etc. They said she could come to the meetings, but they would not travel outside of the territory to visit her, and they would not be able to give her the KM! Can you imagine??? This was a real eye opener to me, and now we no longer attend meetings! Our eyes were opened to the "love" they are supposed to have!

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  JW's and records

  by frozen one in

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  this is a bit of an expansion on the above thread.... if memory serves (which is questionable), it seems that i read or heard that if a witness had employment which made them privy to files at work and if they saw something in the files that may be evidence of "wrong doing" that they were obligated to report the information to the elders.

  for example, if a dub worked at a video store and saw that another witness had been renting r rated movies or (gasp) porn, the elders needed to know this.

  or maybe a witness worked at a hospital and had access to medical files, the elders would need to know if anyone had been treated for vd, had a forbidden blood treatment, or if a sister had an abortion.

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  I remember the rule being that if you see another JW doing wrong or involved in something that is unchristian you are REQUIRED to report it to the elders. If not, you are as guilty as the person involved in the wrongdoing because you know about it.

  Kimmee, You don't know how much grief this prinicple cause me growing up. My father, who was baptized, but "inactive" was a closet smoker. I knew about it from about 11/12 years old. Everytime I heard this at a meeting I would be so wracked with guilt. I could not tell on my father, he'd be df'd (he already had been once for this problem in the early '70's). It was not an easy thing to keep hearing this! BB
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  Convention and Assembly Food Service

  by POs Son in

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  well, a post from low-key lysmith on another topic got me thinking about the less than memorable food at the conventions and assemblies.

  anyone have some thoughts to share?.

  i missed the ham and cheese on rye-- it was one item that was actually pretty good.

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  Exactly Bonnie_Clyde,

  You got to work with and know other people outside your cong. People don't at the assemblies don't talk to anyone they don't know (or it seems like it too me). When you work together you can talk and get to know someone, exchange phone numbers etc. People are in their own little worlds now.

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